Maybe I’m late to the party, but in my mid thirties I’m finally learning how to get out of my own way. Anyone else familiar with imposter syndrome? That feeling of, “I don’t belong here...I’m not good/smart/talented/gritty/competent enough?” When big things are on the horizon, whether they be a new job position, a life change, a passion pursuit...it can feel risky--even scary. We may ask, “why me? Why would I be able to pull that off? Why would I be successful at that?”
Here’s the deal. If there’s something on our hearts and we can’t shake the idea...If we have been feeling a pull in a direction...we ought to pay attention. If we get confirmation from those who know us well perhaps it’s time to move forward--even if it feels risky. The world needs us to step out of our comfort zones and do the big things we were made and called to do.
Why not me? Why not you?
There’s another, more tender flip side to this question of “why me?”. When faced with difficulty we ask the very same question, “why me?”. While I do not want to minimize hardship, grief and the terrible suffering we will face in this life, there may be a space and time when we are able to reframe the wondering. Because of our experiences we are able to empathize in ways we couldn’t before. We grow stronger from the inside out. We wouldn’t choose the hardship, of course. But in time, when the chaos subsides and the dust settles, perhaps we can see some beauty somewhere, despite the brokenness.
So go do what’s on your heart. Is it opening a fitness studio? Applying for a new position? Going back to school? Recording an album? Staying home with your kids? Go do it!!
If you’re suffering or navigating grief, ask all the questions. I don’t want to brush past the hard. Ultimately here we ask the question of WHY, and that cannot always be answered. But YOU are strong. YOU are resilient. YOU have everything it takes inside of you.
Why not me? Why not you?
Xo,
Kara
